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There are so many people depressed and a good bit of these people are mothers, wives and young girls. Depression affects each person differently.

I am a stay at home mom and I some times feel depressed. It doesn’t last long but it is definitely bothersome. I get depressed when my kids are bad or when my husband treats me like I am stupid. I can actually feel pain when I am depressed. I get headaches, body aches and I want to sleep. I feel lethargic and I cry when no one is around. I have a lot going on in my life right now and no one to talk to about it so I can really feel the stress. I don’t think of suicide or any thing like that but a lot of people do when depression comes on.

Depressive disorders can make one feel exhausted, worthless, helpless and  hopeless. Such negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving  up.

It is important to realize that these negative views are part of the  depression and typically do not accurately reflect the actual circumstances.

A woman who already has problems with self-esteem, independence, autonomy,  competition and commitment may have trouble with the added burden of not working  and being at home with children.

Depression shows up in different forms in different people.

Some people cry a lot and feel sad. Others seem angry, irritable or  anxious. For others, depression shows itself in vague physical  problems like constipation, muscle aches and headaches.

Ask yourself if any of the following statements are true:

  1. I feel sad or down most of the time.
  2. I’ve lost interest in the activities I used to enjoy.
  3. I feel tired almost every day.
  4. I have problems sleeping. I sleep too much or I’m staying awake at  night.
  5. My appetite has changed. I’m not eating enough or I’m eating too much.
  6. I have trouble concentrating.
  7. My friends say I’m acting differently. I’m either anxious and restless or  lethargic.
  8. I feel worthless or hopeless.
  9. I have frequent headaches, stomach problems, muscle pain or back  problems.
  10. I find myself thinking a lot about dying.

If you find yourself in the above list, you may be suffering from depression.

It’s important that you realize that depression is not a “phase” or just a  bad mood.

Sometimes depression can be triggered by a change in lifestyle.  If you’re a new mother, a newlywed or you’ve recently relocated or given up your  career to stay home with your children, be aware of potential signs of  depression.

While it may not go away on its own, there are some things you can do to  help your recovery:

  • Set realistic goals and assume a reasonable amount of responsibility.
  • Break large tasks into small ones and set some priorities. Do what you can,  as you can.
  • Try to confide in someone and be among others, if possible.
  • Participate in activities that you can.
  • Mild exercise, going to a movie, and participating in religious, social or  other activities at times may help in the short-term.
  • Expect a gradual improvement in mood. Feeling better takes time. Don’t be  discouraged if you don’t see a marked improvement quickly.
  • Postpone major decisions. Discuss major change with a professional who can  be objective.
  • Ask for help. Let someone else help you.
  • Get professional help.

Find a therapist through recommendations from people you know who have had positive experience with a well-trained, licensed  psychotherapists. Other sources may be universities, medical schools, community  mental health centers, or an online resource such as 4Therapy.com  or psychologytoday.com.

I hope this information helps and if you are depressed (even some times) go on the internet and read other people’s stories. It helps. You are not alone and you will be surprised how many other people feel the same way you do.